Parents
The loss of a child to suicide is one of the worst injuries a human being can suffer. We hope that sharing your memories, your story, your pain and your strategies for coping might help you and others. This is a place you can find someone who shares aspects of your experience and where you can reach out to other parents who might need your help and support. Tell us about it...
A Father’s Loss…..
A Father’s loss is an inability to love a son
A Father’s loss is not a Mother’s loss
A Father’s loss is deep but often silent
A Father’s loss is a failure to protect
A Father’s loss is frustrating
A Father’s loss is wanting to do something
but not knowing what to do
A Father’s loss is having to watch the grief of their partner
without being able to help
A Father’s loss is often lonely
A Father’s loss is emotional,
A new experience
A Father’s loss has spiritual meaning
A Father’s loss is missing a friend
A Father’s loss is having death as a companion
he never wanted
A Father’s loss is missing the future
A Father’s loss is gaining the ability to cry
A Father’s loss is a large hole within his heart
A Father’s loss creates life long change
A Father’s loss is a journey along a different path
A Father’s loss is knowing that his son’s spirit
remains in his heart
A Father’s loss gives insight to a mother’s grief
A Father’s loss gives insight to love
A Father’s loss is to understand sensitivity
A Father’s loss is to understand the need to support
A Father’s loss will last a lifetime.
Richard Brown 2011
At the time of our sons'suicide we were at work, and being in the Hospitality industry, we could not just drop everything, and we had no where to go as he had died the day before, and although we had plenty of friends and family giving sympathy, we had no support from any other source. There were agencies for our boys girlfriend and their lovely daughter, but not for us. Outside help was available but we had to go find it.
The afternoon of getting the news we still had to put on the brave face of being strong, and understanding, when inside our emotions were ripping us apart.
No one person can understand what goes through your mind over those days, and although far to many people experience the wrenching of ones loved ones through suicide, no one understands you over those times. Grieving is such an emotional personal experience and I can never find the words that fully express how and what it means.
But we need support. we need understanding and most of all we need to find the way to halt this epidemic of suffering both from before and after.
Parents always tell your children you love them and watch and learn from those who love you.
If I have learnt anything from this, it is to stop, listen and offer support to any one who asks and have no hesitation in butting in and offering whatever support, understanding and even just a shoulder.
Please use this website. reach out and ask whatever, and never think you are alone. We are all out there to help